Forgiveness of Self and Others
Contrary to popular belief, forgiveness is not a requirement in some scenarios. Forgiveness and acceptance are often linked when discussing the past and have even been traditionally included in twelve step programs. When looking towards the past, it is important to accept what has happened, as it cannot be changed. However, it is not necessary […]
Unhappiness in work, life, and relationships
Unfortunately, unhappiness is inevitable. Life involves constant change, and with that the ebb and flow of emotions, moods, and feelings. Some of us are constantly striving for happiness, but some of us are not. What can cause a person to be comfortable with unhappiness? And if that is the case, how can we change our […]
Internal vs. Perceived Judgement
“A day spent judging another is a painful day. A day spent judging yourself is a painful day.” Buddha Judgement is something that we have all encountered at some point in our lives. We all also have felt how the judgment of others can hurt our feelings, and damage our self-esteem. Then why is it […]
Challenge Thinking
Challenging your thinking can help you to become more aware of yourself, your biases and your beliefs as a person. But acknowledging and challenging your thinking can be difficult. While we mostly hear about challenging negative thoughts, it is important to be cognizant of positive and neutral thoughts as well. They make up who we […]
Change Mindset
Mindset is the way in which we approach challenges. You may wonder if there is a correct mindset, or what the correct mindset may be. According to Stanford Professor Carol Dweck, there are two major types of mindsets: the growth mindset and the fixed mindset. A growth mindset is emphasizing the ability to grow and […]
Empowerment
What is empowerment? Where can I find it? According to Merriam Webster’s dictionary, empower is defined as “to give official authority or legal power to”, “to enable” and “to promote the self-actualization or influence of’. For this post, we are going to focus on the last definition, specifically in regards to self-empowerment or personal empowerment. […]
Finding Passions
“The meaning of life is to find your gift; the purpose of life is to give it away.” Pablo Picasso If someone sat you down today, and genuinely asked “what are you passionate about?”, how would you answer? You may have multiple passions filling your heart and your schedule, or like most people, you may […]
Finding and Building Self-Worth
Sit and think for a moment on the times when you were proud of yourself or felt the best about yourself. What do these moments have in common? What are some differences between these moments? Now, in those moments, were your positive feelings about yourself linked to: A.) A personal accomplishment. B.) A professional goal; […]
Imposter Syndrome
Have you ever sat in on a conference call, lead a meeting, or answered a question and thought to yourself “I have no idea what I’m doing”? How about this scenario, you get a promotion at work, but your internal monologue tells you that it was a mistake, that you are not qualified or that […]
Perfectionism
Contrary to popular belief, the concept of perfectionism is not based on the idea of being perfect, but rather the fear of failure. It is a constant feeling of not being good enough. Curran and Hill (2015) defined perfectionism as “an irrational desire to achieve along with being overly critical of oneself and others.” On […]