Have you ever held onto something—or someone—even when it made you feel bad? Maybe it was an old friendship that wasn’t fun anymore, a habit that stressed you out, or even a memory that made you sad. Sometimes, we stay attached to things because they feel familiar, even when they hurt us.

But here’s an important truth: Your mental health matters more than holding onto what no longer helps you. As Hana Shebar said:

“Learn to choose your mental health over old attachments.”

This means it’s okay to let go of things that weigh you down, even if you once cared about them. Let’s talk about how to do this in a healthy way.

1. What Does “Old Attachments” Mean?

An attachment is something (or someone) you feel connected to. It could be:

• A friendship that isn’t positive anymore
• A bad habit (like negative self-talk)
• A past mistake you can’t stop thinking about
• A relationship that makes you feel worse, not better

Just because something was once important doesn’t mean it’s still good for you. Like an old pair of shoes that no longer fit, some things need to be let go.

2. Why Choosing Your Mental Health is Important

Your mind and emotions need care, just like your body. If you keep holding onto things that hurt you, it can:

• Make you feel tired or stressed
• Lower your confidence
• Keep you from moving forward

Example: Imagine carrying a heavy backpack full of rocks everywhere. You wouldn’t run as fast or feel as free. Old attachments can feel like those rocks—weighing you down.

Choosing your mental health means taking out those rocks so you can walk lighter.

3. How to Know When to Let Go

It’s not always easy to tell when something is hurting you. Ask yourself:

• Does this make me feel happy or drained?
• Am I holding on out of fear or guilt?
• Would I be better off without it?

If something brings more pain than joy, it might be time to step away.

4. How to Let Go Without Feeling Guilty

Letting go doesn’t mean you didn’t care—it means you care about yourself now. Here’s how to do it kindly:

• Accept that change is okay. People grow, and that’s normal.
• Thank the past, then move on. You can appreciate something without keeping it forever.
• Focus on what helps you now. Fill your life with things that make you feel good.

Example: If a friend always makes you feel bad, it’s okay to spend less time with them—even if you’ve known them for years.

5. What Happens When You Choose Yourself?

When you let go of what hurts you, you:

• Feel lighter and happier
• Have more energy for positive things
• Grow stronger and more confident

It’s like cleaning your room—when you remove the clutter, you have space for new, better things.

6. It’s Okay to Feel Sad (But Don’t Stay Stuck)

Letting go can be hard. You might feel:

• Sad
• Lonely
• Guilty

That’s normal! But don’t let those feelings trick you into going back. Instead:

• Talk to someone you trust
• Write down your feelings
• Remind yourself why you made this choice

7. How to Build Healthier Attachments

Once you let go of what wasn’t helping, you can focus on things that do help, like:

• Supportive friends
• Good habits (exercise, reading, hobbies)
• Positive self-talk

This time, choose what truly makes you feel good—not just what’s familiar.

Final Thought: You Deserve Peace

Hana Shebar’s quote teaches us that your happiness is more important than holding onto what hurts you. It’s not selfish—it’s necessary.

So, take a deep breath. Look at what’s weighing you down. And remember: You have the power to choose your peace.

What’s one thing you can let go of today? 🌟