Sometimes when children are angry they have powerful reactions. They are tiny beings full of intense emotion and feelings. These reactions may not always be the best and can hurt themselves or others. It can be challenging to teach kids how to manage their anger. This includes how to calm down or process their emotions. We have put together some information on coping skills that can be applied when these big emotions occur.

Ways to teach your child how to manage their anger:

Have a discussion so your child understands the difference between feelings and behavior.

A great way for kids to learn is through modeling. You can model appropriate responses and coping skills. This allows your child to know what is expected and what they can do in a similar situation.

Be sure to establish rules for managing anger. Create rules either spoken or written so that everyone at home knows what is acceptable.

Teaching healthy coping skills is essential. Even adults have times when they could benefit from new coping skills. Help your child identify strategies that may be useful when they are upset. Try practicing these skills together.

Consequences are not always a bad thing. Offering positive consequences, like a reward system, helps to incorporate management techniques and can help motivate the child.

Skills to practice in the moment:

Pause

Take a deep breath

Think before reacting

Consider the other person’s feelings

Look for possible solutions

If your child struggles to manage their anger you may want to reach out for assistance. You can speak with a provider in your area. Often your primary care physician may have suggestions for different therapies to try. A mental health therapist may also provide techniques to help regulate emotions, and provide your child the skills to help keep calm.